Take responsibility for your life

Hi everyone, welcome to another blog post.

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Today I am talking about taking responsibility for your life and making you realise that you are not a tree… you can move in all aspects of your life! It sounds obvious to say “you are not a tree” but it’s amazing how many people fall victim to their own lives and are unable to see their ability to move, change and take control of their life.

If I am honest, something which really frustrates me is people moaning about how much they hate their job, how they don’t earn enough money, how they are unhappy, how they wish they were fitter, how they wish they had this or that…. But take no action to change any of these things. I firmly believe that you must take responsibility for your life, if there’s something in your life you aren’t happy with then take steps to change it. That may be a hard pill to swallow but I absolutely believe it is true.

Nobody is going to knock on your door and offer you your dream job.

Nobody is going to knock on your door and hand you a pile of money.

Nobody is going to knock on your door and offer you a lifetime of happiness and opportunities.

Only you can make these things become a reality.

Do you complain that you hate your job, but do absolutely nothing about it and years later you are still in the same job you hate? Do you complain that you don't have enough money, but do absolutely nothing about it and years later your financial situation is the same? Every aspect of your life is within your power to change, your job, your financial situation, your relationships, your happiness, your fitness, your mindset…. You have the power to change all of these things and it begins with taking action.

Blame culture

You have to take 100% responsibility for your life even for things which may have happened which aren’t your fault - it is your responsibility to find a path through these things, to pivot and adapt. When I was 21 years old I lost my Dad very suddenly. I could have easily become a victim of this tragedy and moped around on the sofa for the foreseeable future and blamed my lack of achievement and happiness on the fact that I had suffered this loss. Where would that have got me? Nowhere. Would it have changed what happened? No. I would have simply become a victim of my own life and I would still be stuck in that rut all of these years later. I once read a very relatable quote which said:

“Your wound is probably not your fault, but your healing is your responsibility” - Meg Byrnes

This grief became my motivation to do more, be more and achieve more. It made me realise that life is short, too short to settle for a job I hate and spend 40 hours a week doing it, too short to surround myself with people who drain me rather than fill my cup up, too short to sit around waiting for things to come to me which never will. This was the catalyst for taking responsibility for my life and filling my days with people, experiences and thoughts which make me nothing but happy and energised. Don't wait for a tragedy to make you realise all of these things, start taking responsibility now.

Take ownership, take action

You cannot brush any aspect of your life off as someone else’s fault or problem. You must take ownership and find paths through the difficult times, find happiness in what feel like your darkest days and change your path when the one you are on no longer feels like the right path for you. If you let yourself become a victim of your circumstances or life events, you are giving up control of your life. If you do not have control of your own life, what on earth will you ever have control of?

If you can dream it, you can achieve it.

If you’re dreaming of a different job, you can have one.

If you’re dreaming of a life of happiness and opportunities, you can have one.

If you’re dreaming of having more money, you can have it.

It all starts with taking responsibility then taking action - two things which only YOU can do! Nobody else is going to do it for you. You must be in the driving seat of your life, not merely be a passenger. This gives you the ability to create your life, not just react to it.

I urge you to reflect upon whether you are taking responsibility for your life at the moment, or are you in a vicious circle of blaming other people for things you do not have, or have not achieved? What aspects of your life are you not happy with and are you taking action to change these things? The mindset shift from the victim of your life to the controller of your life is so incredibly powerful.

Thank you as always for reading.

Love Alice

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