Saying 'no' in order to protect your energy

Hi everyone and welcome to another blog post!

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It’s a new month and I am personally feeling a new surge of energy in my life so today’s post is all about protecting your own energy and ensuring you fill up your own cup before anyone else's!

Do you always feel compelled to say ‘yes’ to doing things you don’t really want to do, or spend time with people you don’t want to necessarily spend time with? Let’s be honest we have all been there! Let me talk to you about the power of saying no.

If you say ‘yes’ to someone or something, you’re saying ‘no’ to something else or to yourself. That time doing the thing you said yes to could be invested in something else, something more valuable to you and something which will fill your cup up and give you more energy. You should never feel guilty for prioritising yourself before anyone else. Never. When you are on an aeroplane the safety message is to always put your own oxygen mask or life jacket on before you help anyone else, the reason for this is you cannot help anyone else if you don’t help yourself first.

I want you to think of your time as your energy currency and only spend it and invest it in things that are truly worth it, just like your money! I want you to protect your energy levels like you protect your bank account, here are some ways you do this:

• Ensuring the people you spend time with GIVE you energy, not drain your energy!

• Say no to things which don’t contribute to your well-being or top up your energy.

• Do a social media audit and unfollow people who make you feel anything less than wonderful, energised and worthy.

• Rather than spending your time trying to fix other people’s problems or looking at their life, focus on YOU and YOUR priorities.

It’s true that you can’t pour from an empty cup so if you’re constantly busy filling up other people’s cups and saying ‘yes’ to them, you’re not investing that time filling up your own and you’re saying ‘no’ to yourself. I will say it again, you should never feel guilty for prioritising your own needs and protecting your own energy. If you aren’t taking care of yourself how can you possibly take care of those around you?

Reflect upon the people you spend your time with, the content you consume and the activities you do throughout your day. Do they give you energy or drain you? Are you doing them out of choice or because you feel compelled to? Think about it carefully, you will be surprised what a negative impact certain people and activities have on your energy. I urge you to consider how you can reduce the time spent with these people or doing these things and replace them with more energy GIVERS! Remember only you can protect your energy.

Love Alice

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